[My] Life in Wisconsin

Jenny Mella, Nyk and Casey



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Good Morning All;
First of all to thank everyone who is praying for Casey and keeping her in their thoughts. I truly do appreciate the outpouring of love and concern!

Will keep this private entry short(er), but just wanted you to know that we are leaving today for Minnesota. I never want to post that info out there or for everyone.
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On the FYI end of it all... (Just a little heads up).
OK OK, it's a rant.

Know that since their trip to Texas in June, Jenny Mella and Casey no longer speak.
I know it bothers Casey something awful- Not that she hasn't tried to keep open the lines of communication, (all her efforts in vain).
Heck, it bothers ME too.

Nykquee apparently has perpetuated much maligning with that one.
(Yes, Jenny has a brain, and a heart, of her own).
She made me sad.
I can promise that it is, and will ever be, one of Jenny's greater losses, something she will grow to regret.

There was crap said about the drugs that Casey was on. Which is a blog in/of itself.

Yet taking vicoden when she was on that trip was nothing compared to what she was on for the past, almost 5 years now.

Nyk, as an 'emt' in training, (is that to make her extra "special"?), apparently freaked out and said how bad Casey was for taking vicoden etc etc etc.
(Funny I don't recall Nyk even visiting Casey in the hospital, save for once, early on in her illness).
She knows NOTHING of Chronic Pancreatitis, and how it has destroyed Casey's life! She knows nothing of the pain that Casey is still in.
(C'mon, would the Pain Management Doctors even prescribe this for Casey if the need wasn't there)??? I think not.

I also think "Ignorance is bliss" 
Neither of these very fortunate young ladies have ever known anything close to Caseys pain, or what she has endured for the past 5+ years. How dare they do this to her!

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At one point on that fateful trip, allegedly Nyk had also said that Casey could not possibly have had an anxiety attack because she was not shaking etc.  Please see http://flintville.multiply.com/links/item/175 to refresh your memory, or CLICK HERE.

Again... Jenny has a brain, and a heart, of her very own.

Sorry to be so b|tchy here.  When things get so bad for Casey, I know I always want to 'blame' or rant or whine; and of course I do know how futile that is.

BUT, I also know that state of mind has much to do with recovery etc. This BS going on between how she feels still about Jenny does not help matters one bit. They grew up as sisters with their deep friendship. She has hurt Casey deeply.

Would you all take a moment to go to Casey's guestbook and send a little love? She will really appreciate it when she gets back to Multiply.

Love to all.

XOXO
Anne

Must go pack, and finish laundry. She has called and will be here shortly.



30 comments:

  1. God Bless all involved. I was curious as to why I hadn't seen anything of Nykee for a while. Take care of your baby and either their eyes will be opened or not. HUGS you tightly but gently.

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  2. oh man, I hope this stops soon for her.....she has got to get better! be safe on the trip and good luck! sorry Casey and her sister are not getting along, be well.

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  3. So so sorry to hear all of this. I'm sorry that sometimes I get caught up in my own little world and I don't keep up with yours as I should. Please know that it is of no reflection of my care for you. I keep you in my heart and always will. Love and hugs....many prayers too.

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  4. Thank you ALL !

    I normally won't be the bad mom, and and and the devils advocate, and rant...
    BUT, just had to get it off my chest is all.
    And I was so tempted to include Jenny here too. But I am not that bad, yet.
    "and lead us not into temptation..."

    eyes will open... too late?

    Sorry too- That should have read "much like sisters" . No blood, just lots of love.


    My love to all.

    Almost time to hit the road... Foggy Thankfully not pea soup), and rain...
    My tires need replacing by January but I am a careful driver.

    XOXO
    me

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  5. I promise to try to get around to all your news when I can.

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  6. Please do keep us informed and of course the prayers are still being sent upwards. It may be impossible to think of now but, Jenny may come to her senses once again. Take care and be safe. Maybe while you are there you can find a pain/back doctor with the trust you have in Dr. Sutherland (he may know a few).

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  7. Jenny has lost more than Casey ever will. Why? Because clearly Casey was a better friend to Jenny then Jenny was to Casey.

    It is a sad sad thing that when life shovels it your way and you need your friends most, they desert you. You have know my own situation well enough to know I know what this means to people.


    Casey has and always will have my love. Anixety, drugs, any or all..... she has my love and my prayers.

    Jenny and Nyki? Karma is a bitch. The biggest bitch.


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  8. I am so sorry that all this has happened and its always so sad when wonderful friends go on seperate paths .. I really wish they could work it out ..There will definitely be regrets as time passes and life is too short to not try and work things out and for some to be more understanding of other's situations .. I wish Casey all the best , she is someone I admire ..She has been through so so much but still stays so optimistic and full of life and that is so wonderful after all she has been through , she could be very bitter but she is bubbling over .. Hugs

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  9. So sorry to hear she is having not only medical problems again but friendships are suffering also. As to the friendships.. well as someone else said either it will work itself out or it wont. My experience tells me that if it doesnt maybe there is a reason, that will show itself later. I hope that the doctors can give her some relief.


    Big hugs and Drive Carefully!

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  10. Except for God and God alone, I have always said no one person can judge another persons pain or problems unless they are in that body with them! Some day.....Miss Jenny will have a physical problem and there will be no one around to sympathize with her pain as being real or not or whether the meds she uses for it is the right one or not. But somehow, I do believe that our CaseyFace would look over everything and be there for Miss Jenny anyway.

    Who knows....someday this inopportune opportunity may actually happen and Miss Jenny will finally understand what Casey is dealing with.

    I do pray their relationship can heal. Casey needs her friends.
    But first....lets get Caseys Prayers said for a complete healing to come her way.

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  11. Hopefully by now y'all have gotten to Minnesota safe and sound...

    Prayers, prayers and more prayers for Ms. CaseyFace...

    Karma will come back and bite Jenny AND Nyk in the ass... Jenny is an adult and is capable of making decisions for herself... Sad how some people are so easily influenced by others, even if they don't speak the truth... Maybe you SHOULD have included her in this... It may have opened her eyes just a tad...

    Going now to spread a lil love in Casey's guestbook!

    Lots of love, hugs and positive energy being sent your way!

    Slurkie :-)

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  12. We are here. Safe. Sound.
    Must go lie down a bit.

    Thank you all once again.

    XOXO
    Me

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  13. Glad to know you made it there safe!

    Hope you get the rest you need!

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  14. Oh my, "On the Road Again". I'm happy you got there safe. Praying for Casey to have good news
    and that she will be healed of all the pain she is having. Enough already, she don't need any more
    pain or medical issues. She also does not need any friendship issues. Somehow I don't understand exactly what is going on. I guess I just can't imagine why good friends would bring up the meds she had to take while going through all she did...it just don't make sense. Like I always say, what goes around, comes around and it always does. She is a sweetie and a fighter, she will get through this too.
    Love, hugs and blessings!

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  15. A bit limited here as far as connectivity goes, so will just post on this blog...

    I had to wake Casey up to take Punk out as I can barely move. A few minutes ago I had to take a cafergot also. Not sure why this trip has been so brutal on me... But I don't like it.

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  16. I giggled at finding a pain doctor here. Jerry, (my birthfather) sent me some stuff from Florida about an honestly spectacular back pain place... Too bad I am not rich, and can't travel well.
    hehehe

    Am hoping that Jenny finds a place IN her heart to make it all happen.

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  17. You are so right.
    Why do I always forget about karma? I always do...

    Casey loves you so... But it is always good to have those wonderful words to come back to also.
    I believe you are the best sister she could ever have!

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  18. Casey felt those regrets and that searing pain immediately- Now she waits for Jenny to know that same emptiness. And I am not saying that to be mean. Just that it is so.

    "The Bubble Bobo" is an inspiration to us all, isn't she? I do not think, (hell, I "KNOW") I would not do so well in her shoes.

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  19. That reason? Yes, life itself always comes full circle at some point. But is still hard for her to have a cavalier attitude about it all...
    Too much shared of her own volition. Too much 'time' now.
    Water. Under the bridge that WON'T burn as it is...

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  20. You are so right about 'judging'- (And I dare to even write about it? What does THAT say)?

    Yet there could have been much more compassion through learning. Taking the time to know and understand how this has so adversely affected her life- and at least putting herself in her shoes. (There are too few people that can honestly do that for another).
    Her own words (from here, http://jemina87.multiply.com/journal/item/8/New_Years)as she'd recapped the previous year...
    "December was scary. My best friend had major surgery far away from me."

    You are also right about Casey being there for Jenny should anything happen. And yet, Casey would move Heaven and Earth to be there for anyone who needed her. (Look what got her into this mess to begin with)...

    Perhaps it will heal. But it can never be the same. (Spoken from 52 years of life).

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  21. Nykquee was always 'flighty' and unsubstantial- Jenny was Casey's rock. They (Jenny and Nyk) really each had no use for the other before that fateful TX trip.
    Odd. Suddenly they are best friends? "The blind leading the blind" comes to mind.
    But Jenny was the ultimate 'surprise' I would have thought that she would have stood by Casey, (and 'up' for Casey).
    She has proven herself a bit less comforting than I ever would have given her discredit for.

    Yes, there's that KARMA again...

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  22. Casey is everyones sweet inspiration.
    You say you don't understand what is going on? For all of my own comments on it, I surely do not understand it either.
    Yes, Casey has had to take those meds.
    And now she is back on morphine! (Wonder what those 2 "kids" would have said about Casey doing some of that driving yesterday)? Still, it is nothing compared to what she HAS taken- Her little body is not like yours and mine. What she was on, even 1 year ago, would kill us, or surely send us to the hospital to recover... But even then, those barely etook the edge off her pain.

    You are right, she WILL get through this too. Just that it would have been nice to know that Jenny was there, fighting FOR her, even if she couldn't be with her...

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  23. Must get in the shower. Our appointment is for 9:30.

    Love to all

    XOXO
    Anne

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  24. May God continue to watch over and bless both of you. I hope all goes well for both of you and Casey is able to get some relief. HUGS Dear Annie.

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  25. Just checking in to say hello and to read your comments. Things will change for the best one of
    these days and Jenny will see the error of her ways. In the meantime Casey has to focus on herself
    and getting better...that is the most important right now. I pray that you will both be home soon
    and that your pain will be gone for both of you. It's always different when you are away from home
    and a different bed. That always killed my back. God bless and keep you both...my prayers are
    with you. xoxo

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  26. Hoping that everything went OK with Dr. S today...

    Sending love and prayers to both of you!

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  27. I wonder if anything here will make a difference to Jenny so perhaps she will not be afraid to show her face in Minnesota at the end of this month and visit her friend.

    An eternal optimist, I do know that herself showing up in MN to be there for Casey is only wishful thinking...
    If for no other reason -perhaps it will only serve to make her think about what her 'distance' is costing her sister~friend.

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  28. This too will be in my prayers

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